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Leadership Lessons From Parenting

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There are so many lessons you can learn from Parenting. So many can and should be applied to Leadership.

Lesson: Be present, be calm, be patient, and listen to them;

Employees need you to be there for them. They need you to be present. They need you to be calm and patient and they desperately need you to listen to them. New and senior employees look toward you for support and guidance. They need you to be calm in the face of any calamity. To show limitless patience and support. Also, they have ideas and perspectives which need to be heard and considered. Don’t miss an opportunity to learn just because you are the boss.
Lesson: Let them stumble, fall, and fail; help them up and coach, don’t fix;

As painful as it might be, a good leader will let their staff stumble, fall and fail. The key will be to prove to them you will be there to help pick them up and coach them, guide them. Don’t yield to the extreme temptation of simply fix the problem. Show them they have the insight and capability of resolving the issue, even after a fall.
Lesson: Grow with them before you find yourself treating them as inferior;

Employees grow with every task and especially those they stumbled through. A leader must recognize this growth and maturity. Acknowledge this increasing capability with ever more challenging assignments. Holding them to the same level of tasks shows them you haven’t grown in an appreciation of their capabilities. They will continue to grow in spite of you. Or, they will meet your level of expectation and you both will fail; and it is your fault.

Lesson: No matter what, no matter when, no matter where—just support;

Commit yourself to publicly supporting them, no matter what, when, or where. They rely on your public support and your private constructive criticism. Show your public support, they will follow your lead and support you. Criticize publicly and expect the same in return, or worse behind your back.

Lesson: Don’t play favorites;

Every employee is unique and special. Each has amazing talents as well as faults. Don’t play favorites. Find within each how they best can aid the organization and praise the hell out of what they do. Help each with their unique weakness while they exercise their strengths. Everyone has a key role. Yours is to not play favorites as this will undoubtably be divisive and failure is eminent.
Lesson: There is a forest amidst the trees, sometimes you don’t need to sweat the small stuff;

It is so easy for an employee to focus on the minutia. Help them understand there is a bigger picture. The small parts, while important, must be addressed with the larger objective in view. They are solving a critical part of the whole, but they must know what the whole really is. It’s not their fault if their creative solution is counter to the global objective. There are many solutions to all problems. Let them in on the secret and let them devise solutions to support it.
Lesson: Leadership just as Parenting is something you GET to do every day, not HAVE to do

It’s a privilege to be a leader. If you don’t think so, you shouldn’t be one. You GET to help guide and grow people to be better than they were. You GET to learn from a wide diverse group and then impart knowledge to others. Leadership is an opportunity to grow their future which you GET to champion. None of these you HAVE to do; but, if you feel they are mandatory obligations you shouldn’t be a leader.


Remember, YOU are their example; no pressure……

#NeverFearTheDream

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Critical Thinking: Let’s Rethink This

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There’s been quite the ferment about Critical Thinking in the last several years. Unfortunately, it is being misrepresented and becoming a lost skill. Critical Thinking is Deep Thinking. It doesn’t come easy, especially in this world of instant gratification and distractions. It is quite often emotionally painful. Critical Thinking forces you to challenge some (all) core beliefs. You may find them to be deceptions or myths. It can push you past the survival thinking mindset we tend to find ourselves entrapped. It will certainly break through the status quo mindset which plagues us.

Embrace curiosity and become a lifelong learner. Don’t be satisfied with what you hear or see on the internet or TV. Force yourself to ask a simple question: ‘Does that really make sense?’. Start thinking, questioning, probing, and researching. Find out for yourself.

Become an active listener rather than an active talker. Listen to other viewpoints. Resist formulating your defense while those viewpoints are being presented. Have patience. Absorb their meaning and implications. Then, reflect on how your experiences support or reject them. When you express yourself, be reflective on what you’ve heard and be respectful.

Take your time in decision making and systematically solve problems. Dissect complex problems to solve them. Try to see the forest and the trees at the same time. The more difficult and complex the problem the more you need a diverse group to solve it. Reach out to others not in your comfort circle for their opinion, theirs might just be the key to resolution. And then, learn to pause before acting. Reflection beforehand can be invaluable.

Deep critical thinking requires a lot of self-reflection. It requires a willingness to accept your ideas, concepts, and beliefs might be wrong. As such, practice a little self-compassion too. Don’t be self-critical but be self-aware and willing to change, if change is needed. The first step is being willing to ask.

Critical thinking has been demonized because it has made a lot of people uncomfortable. The questions have probed long-held beliefs and institutional practices. That’s what you do when you practice Critical Deep Thinking. Relax and enjoy the mental and emotional challenges ahead. Your life will be better for the effort. #NeverFearTheDream

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Two Who Took Secrets: Tale of Two Indictments

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It’s not whether there is a best or worst of times when it comes to indictments, especially recent espionage cases. But now we have two indictments for the same crimes against the state in a matter of a few months. Don’t make this about who they are, make it about what they’ve done and whom they’ve harmed.

In one we have a socially immature government employee who had access to, and allegedly took, confidential national documents. He took them because he wanted to bolster his ego and status within his circle of supporters. He needs to feel important. He shows off his trophies and brags about how important they are and by implication how important he is.

In the second case, ironically, we have almost an identical situation. A former government employee with larger delusional ego issues. He too took secret material for his personal use, to show off his trophies and brag. He too needs to feel important.

In the first, the perpetrator was apprehended by armed FBI agents and SWAT. He was immediately incarcerated, without bail, even before being indicted. The conservative right wing was appalled at how long it took the DOJ to apprehend the accused and of course there shouldn’t be any bail. He was clearly a threat to the country by showing off his trophies.

By contrast, in a clear demonstration of DOJ bias, the search warrant for the second was actioned while the suspect was out of town to avoid any embarrassing situation. It took well on six to eight months for the second to be indicted all the while being free and available to the press. In even another example of DOJ bias, this suspect wasn’t incarcerated even after indictment. The first indicted on six charges, the second on only thirty-seven. One is free, the other is not, guess which.

The conservative right wing screaming about a two-tier system, and they are correct. If the second had been named Smith, what are the odds of such preferential treatment. Both cases will be heard by a jury, that’s how our system of justice works. It will be interesting to see if there is any subtle jury tampering or judicial prejudice by and for the second. He is the only one who is free, speaking volumes, with the means to accomplish acquittal by influence. And yes, if you take national secrets, you should be prosecuted; no matter who you are. These are demure men striving for attention. Keep it about what they’ve done, not who they are or want to be. Through it all, sadly, the country loses. #NeverFearTheDream

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In our changing society, some who feel like victims are not victims

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Things you never had are the subject of your dreams. Things you choose to let go of are soon forgotten. But those things taken from you; those are the things you miss the most.

Imagine for a moment how intense the loss must be when you believe everything you and your forefathers had worked for was taken from you. Taken away by the vote and choice of the electorate; your neighbors. Slowly, piece by piece, your rights and opportunities taken and distributed to others. Your world slowly dismantled. You would be frustrated. You would be angry. But know, anger is an exhibit of weakness and lack of self-control not strength and composure.

For these disgruntled neighbors the perceived loss is more complicated and to them very real. Complicated because now ‘their’ rights and privileges are diluted. Those rights are enjoyed by others. Others who never had them before but should have. It is now a conflict. Those who have lost try in vain to recollect and those who now have refusing to return what they now enjoy. It’s women refusing to yield control over their own bodies and health. It’s minorities refusing to yield voting rights, employment, and education opportunities. It’s those who celebrate a different sexual orientation refusing to be demonized, scapegoated, and losing medical rights and acceptance. And why should any of them not defend the rights and privileges they have.

For a moment, consider those who have ‘lost’ are not radical or racially motivated. They are those who feel they are truly victims. Victims of a changing society in which they no longer reign supreme. Their racial, religious, and gender privileges all in the past. A group who passionately wants the country to return to a time when their existence and influence hadn’t been marginalized and brought into balance with others. An America where racial and religious minorities and women could be teased, harassed, and scapegoated with impunity. The sooner these new ‘victims’ recognize they aren’t victims and what they ‘lost’ cannot be reclaimed the sooner they can accept the current state of society. They can recognize and maybe accept they remain valuable assets, just like everyone else. No better and no worse, every step closer to equal. The sooner they do, all of us will start healing.

I understand the difference between the two; I’ve been visually impaired most of my life and don’t know the difference. I’ve been hearing impaired for the last twenty years and I know what I’ve lost. Listening to a flock of singing birds, with my hearing aids, I recognize how much I’ve missed the subtle sounds of nature. Hearing what I can, only because of augmentation, reminds me of all the sounds taken away from me. I mourn my loss but absorbed what I can as best I can. I appreciate the moments I have rather than wallowing in pity over what I’ve lost.

Societies and cultures move forward, they change and evolve. The path isn’t always smooth, and change can be hard. Especially hard to accept if you feel what you’ve lost was taken from you. But you can’t take it away from others just because you want it back.  #NeverFearTheDream

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‘The Ultimate Cancel Act’ (Florida SB 1248): Beware of Unintended Consequences

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Florida SB 1248 was filed and now referred to five committees. The current bill calls for the termination of any political party which ‘previously advocated for, or been in support of, slavery or involuntary servitude.’

What happens, presuming it passes and in the next session the Christian National Party (CNP) combines with the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC). The SBC was founded in 1845 to support the cause of slavery and gave it ‘biblical’ credibility. It took 173 years before the SBC softened its position. In keeping with SB 1248 the CNP and the SBC could be on a termination list.

What happens if the statue is amended to include non-political organizations. Would the Sons and Daughters of the Confederacy be at risk of termination? What about the monuments, statutes, and memorials which they sponsored, or which glorify the Confederacy? Wouldn’t they too be at risk?

What if in the preparation of statue regulations, or amendments, companies which benefited from Jim Crow Laws were included? The list of those whose founders supported or benefited from slavery or involuntary servitude could be extensive.

And as to involuntary servitude; what if the recent interpretation, by several Federal Judges, that forced continued pregnancy is in fact ‘involuntary servitude’ is upheld? Wouldn’t every anti-abortion organization and even churches be on the ever expanding list of organizations required to be terminated?

Good legislation is hard to craft and administer. Even the best risk their original intent being misinterpreted, modified, altered, or amended. But partisan legislation, passed in the heat of the moment or whimsically is ripe for abuse. Good legislation has a dual role. First, to support a positive change in society while simultaneously protecting the rights of all affected. All legislation has some degree of unintended consequences. This piece of partisan legislation is ripe for abuse, now and in the future. Let’s be careful what we ask for in all legislation and be ready for the inevitable unintended consequences.

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Striking a Balance With Equality and Equity

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Thomas Jefferson metaphorically penned, ‘all men are created equal’ knowing this wasn’t the case. Not only are we not created equal, but we will also live and die that way. Let me ask; as a civil society, should we strive for equality, or equity, or their combination?

We are inundated with initiatives trying to make things equal and to ‘level the playing field’. Enacted Federal and State laws mandate equality. To a great regard those efforts have enabled many to achieve great things. Achievements only a few decades ago they wouldn’t have had the opportunity to even try; let alone succeed. And yet, today we are seeing an extreme backlash of those initiatives. Rejection by those who believe their inherent privileges have been stolen and given to others. Evidently, efforts for equality have resulted in a sense of winners on the backs of losers. Even though their misplaced perception of loss is far far greater than reality.

Could we possibly reframe the discussion away from equality and focus on equity? Should everything be equal? Must the ‘playing field’ be level? Or could we try to find ‘both/and’ solutions rather than ‘either/or’ ones. Solutions where everyone can win and achieve. We could be looking for objective oriented opportunities. Those which encourage everyone to achieve the desired goal.

Not everyone needs the same level of assistance to achieve the same goal. Some don’t need any and some need a lot. Making everything equal may not be the right approach. Overcompensating some while others may still be lacking and fail.

Equity is not equality. Presuming equal opportunity, consider three youngsters wanting to watch a ball game but are on the wrong side of a fence. Their height differs; one tall, one medium and the other, well just short. There is sufficient material to make six, one-foot-tall, boxes for them to stand upon. Equality would be each of them getting two boxes to stand on to watch the game. In this case the tall one, who could almost already see over the fence is over compensated. The middle one can now watch the game. However, the short one is still too short to watch. Everything is equal but the goal wasn’t achieved. Equity would rearrange the boxes to give the tall one, a single box; the middle one two, and the short one would get three boxes. This is clearly not equal. Yet now, each of the children can easily stand and watch the game. Even though the distribution of assets wasn’t equal, the goal is achieved, and everyone is happy with the outcome. Everyone won.

No one ever promised the world would be fair. No one should expect everything to be equal. It just doesn’t work that way. Inequalities surround us. However, all people, must be treated equally, have equal rights, and equal opportunity. Not because it’s the law but because it’s the right thing. Some people are born to privilege, others to poverty. Some are physically or mentally blessed, and others struggle with either or both. Our public policies could consider balancing equality with equity. Can we promote equal opportunity and equity in resource allocation?

Let’s focus on achievement rather than equality. Focus on finding ‘both/and’ solutions rather than defaulting to ‘either/or’. We celebrate Black History Month and recognize the amazing contributions of so many from such meager beginnings. While we learn to treat everyone equally, let’s stop trying to make all things equal and stop sanitizing history. There are some things which need equality and some which would benefit by equity. Those who need more should receive more. Those who need less should be willing to get less. Equality is not equity, and we need both. #NeverFearTheDream

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Optics and Perspectives

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Can anyone imagine the perspective of someone outside looking at recent critical elections. Imagine optics from their perspective. Is there a difference between armed DOJ officers and State Troops ‘protecting’ ballot boxes and polling centers and armed Russian troops at polling centers in ‘liberated’ Ukraine territories? Is there a difference between ‘little green men’ watching over Crimean voting and ‘masked vigilantes’ watching over those in the U.S.

Surely there’s a difference; surely. Of course, there’s a difference; of course there is. There is isn’t there? No seriously, there is right? Right? Maybe only from our perspective.

Optics and perspectives are everything. Now, let the world press start the spin cycle. Don’t be shocked at how we are not perceived. But of course, there’s a difference; really there is, right? #NeverFearTheDream

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Democracy dies with blind loyalty and uninformed, intimidated voting

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Democracy dies because of uninformed voters, misinformation, blind loyalty, and masked intimidation. The idea of a people-controlled government necessitates the populist cast ballots and respect the outcome. Your turn to let democracy win is now. Be an informed, knowledgeable, non-single issue, country before party voter. While every vote is sacred, an uninformed, ignorant vote is dangerous because elections have consequences.

Our system of voting, and our form of government, are more at risk today than ever before. It’s up to us to ensure their survival. The risks are real; ignorance, misinformation, intimidation, gerrymandering, and least of all fraud.

The airwaves and multiplatform media are awash with half-truths, slanderous snippets, blatant lies and a never-ceasing, bot propagated, flood of misinformation. Every minute of every day a new incendiary hoax is proliferated to influence the ignorant and the blind followers. It’s hard to pierce through the noise and find the truth. Remember, hate speech isn’t free speech. Those who want to influence voting don’t want you to research and study. Don’t listen to the ridiculous, the outlandish, or the absurd. Stop funding those individuals and organizations which support them. Defy them, study, and research all the issues and candidates. Reach out to the League of Women Voters, read the Voters Pamphlet, question the nonsense. Educate yourself.

Voter intimidation and political violence is on the rise. A dangerous turn of events which cannot be tolerated. Masked and armed people in military garb are now ‘observing’ Arizona polling stations and ballot boxes. These vigilantes, reminiscent of the masked KKK, are afraid to show their identity yet they photograph the voters. Their presence chills the atmosphere of a free and fair election process and heightens the risk of political violence. In today’s polarized election cycle this could be anywhere, not just Arizona, especially after a Federal Judge refused to stop them. Polling centers and ballot boxes must be free of harassment, direct or implied. So, if your ballot box is being watched, cast your ballot, then turn and smile to their masked, cowardly, faces and give them the appropriate digit enhanced wave they deserve.

Gerrymandered voting districts are fundamentally wrong. Party controlled legislatures are redrawing election boundaries for their own benefit not for fair representation. During the years of Jim Crow Laws extraordinary efforts were made to limit black voters by determining the smallest amount of black heritage would disqualify voters. In a reversal of logic southern Republican legislatures are now determining people must have a high degree of blackness to be deemed as black to be a factor in redistricting. A perfect example of the means justifies the end, holding power no matter how unethical.

Voting integrity is an issue and yes, voter fraud did occur in the 2020 election. The Heritage Foundation, a heralded conservative organization, has documented an unimpressive 1380 proven instances of voter fraud across the country. A fraud rate of less than nine proven fraudulent votes per million cast. After spending almost six million dollars on forensic analysis, Arizona determined blatant, systematic, fraud did not take place. Yes, we have a problem but it’s not voter fraud. It’s the Big Lie and those who continue to propagate and benefit from it.

Our democracy is at our mercy. We have a responsibility to be independent informed voters who will politely and with civility take part in the process. We must not, cannot, be guided by blind loyalty, swayed by the attack ads, or the propagation of lies and inuendoes. Voting districts should be established by independent bipartisan commissions, not biased state legislatures. Our democracy depends on us standing up and being counted as thinking individuals, not manipulated party zombies. #NeverFearTheDream

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Question everything you think you know in pursuit of Truth

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When we were children, we listened and absorbed the lessons taught by our parents and our role models. As adults we must ensure the lessons we teach and actions we take are based on truth and facts, not perspective and conjecture. Just as ‘the truth will set you free’ (John 8:32) and ‘I think therefore I am’ (Rene Descartes) we must challenge everything we think we know and view from every perspective before we can conceive it is the truth. We must escape from our own Plato’s Cave (The Allegory of the Cave, Republic by Plato), and seek the blinding daylight of reality, and encourage those who are still captive in their cave to escape.

The Allegory of the Cave is an excellent illustrative story for our times. Trapped in a darkened cave watching images parade upon the wall. All we can see are these images and hear their sounds as each creature passes. This is our only means of knowledge and therefore deemed our reality. Just as children we believe what we see and hear. If the figure of an ass passes by and trumpets, we have no choice but to believe the ass trumpets. We know no difference. Not until we are able to escape our bonds of our dark cave can we see a little more truth. We discover the visions we saw on the wall were shadows of silhouettes made with artificial light, not reality. Yet, we still think an ass trumpets because we know nothing different. The puppeteers stay in character as they move the silhouettes and continue the ruse.

It’s not until, once again, we strive to reach the bright daylight outside of the greater cave do we see reality. We are blinded by the brilliance of the sunlight. It hurts at first. We try to shield our eyes until they become accustomed to truth’s brilliance. We see and hear the real ass and elephant and are shocked, in denial and disbelief. We see the sky, hear the surf and thunder, and smell the wonders and stench of real truth. We think to ourselves; we must tell those left behind, still in their cave. However, after harassment and threats we understand another great reality. Each of us must find our own way out of our caves. Regardless of the amount of encouragement, each must decide to either stay in the comfort of manipulated delusion or face the enlightened discomfort of truth. But we can still encourage them and should.

And today the shadows projected upon our wall are controlled by mass and social media. One controlled by only a few for their financial interests and the other manipulated by inhuman bots programmed to disseminate disinformation. We are told ‘truth isn’t truth’ and follow our tribal instincts finding ourselves more comfortable to believe those in our groupthink world and our new puppeteers. For us to break free of their influence we must escape the chains by which they bind us.

So, here’s the deal; if you are not viciously challenging what you believe, or think, and those two are different, every day then you are not in a position to challenge or question anyone else’s ideas or comments. This is a pretty high bar, but one each of us is more than capable of jumping, every day. Through this self-challenge we can see truth is truth, not perspective or the chaos of conspiracy theory. Elephants trumpet like elephants and asses don’t, they heehaw.   #NeverFearTheDream

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Sleep walking into a New Axis World Coalition

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The news in front of our eyes is dominated by the summer heat, drought, and now monsoons. Rivaled by the constant drip, drip, drip drama of citizen trump, and the news the Ukrainian’s continue to stymie the mighty Russian Paper Bear.

These are critically important events, well maybe not the citizen trump stuff. Lest we forget to raise our heads and look around we may very well be sleep walking into a New Axis World Coalition. Russia and China are forming tighter bonds which isn’t unexpected. However, Russia is now linking arms with the other terrorist states of North Korea, Syria, and Iran. North Korea has reportedly offered 100,000 ‘volunteers’ to fight in Ukraine. Syria is now demanding all U.S. troops out of the country. Iran is attacking U.S. forces and supporting terrorist forces in the Middle East and beyond. And then there’s Turkey, just playing the authoritarian transactional leadership game getting what they can from either Russia or NATO.

The consequence of these new, robust, and overt, coalitions will impact our lives for the foreseeable future. Given the predicament Russia is in, China’s long term expansionist plan, and the radicalized position of the other three states of terror the U.S., NATO, and the rest of the non-aligned world should be ready for almost anything at any time. It’s reasonable to foresee a nuclear North Korea, Syria and Iran curtesy of Russia, just ‘to balance’ the global power structure.

These are interesting times. Here’s hoping the world’s structural stupidity and self-absorbed nature doesn’t accelerate and exacerbate the situations.

Stay safe, Stay well

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