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Choice, Chance, Change

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It’s easy to fall into a routine—a pattern, a path, a simple rut. After a while, it can feel like being a snake in a wagon-track after rain: pressed into the groove, unable to see a clean way out. Stuck. Destined to follow the track wherever it leads.

But remember, you helped get yourself into it, and you can help get yourself out. The way out begins with choice, then a chance, then change. Even when a situation feels unsolvable or risky, you can still act—if only to begin the process. Yes, many parts of life are socially or professionally controlled. Even inside those boundaries, there are choices—subtle ones, small ones, but choices, nonetheless. The point is to exercise them.

Every choice has consequences. That is not a reason to freeze; it is a reason to brace. The choices and chances do not have to be big, bodacious gestures. Small, incremental shifts can be deeply significant. Change often starts there: deciding you want it, choosing toward it, and accepting the chance that comes with each step.

You don’t have to wait for a grand opening, a sign, or even the perfect plan. You need to make a choice and follow through — today. Even a small pivot can change your life’s course. Many of us like the phrase  ‘turning over a new leaf’ because it is clean and peaceful. In practice, it is usually more complicated than the phrase suggests—longer-term, sometimes riskier. Still, the principle holds: be willing to turn the leaf and look for something new. Yes, there may be thorns. That comes with reaching. Sometimes the only way to discover is to try.

And if you think you’ve already turned every leaf in your effort to change, wait for spring. There will be a whole forest again—even the trees in your own yard will leaf out—offering a fresh crop of leaves to turn; nature is annoyingly generous that way. Take a deep breath and just start turning.  NeverFearTheDream     simplebender.com

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Never Fear The Dream…

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Conformity may be the easiest path to self-betrayal. And matching dishonesty with dishonesty only makes you a liar. 25.10.3

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Four Cascading Truths of Change

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  • No situation is beyond change.
    • A shared vision and a sound strategy can shape that change.
      • Everyone must help make a difference.
        • No one is free of responsibilities.

Re-read those slowly. These truths have outlived generations because they work—alone or together. Like people, they stand stronger when connected.

Change is never still. It may be welcome or feared, but it will come. When we craft a common vision and act with purpose, change can be shaped instead of endured. That means leaning in—not leaving the work to “them,” whoever they are, nor just to yourself. Those who only watch from the sidelines end up resenting the outcome. Those excluded will also be resentful and work to sabotage the effort. Find a way to have a shared vision or the vision will eventually fail.

Being part of change means being accountable: creating, planning, and carrying some of the weight yourself. If everyone contributes, no one is left out—and no one is left behind.

The work never truly ends. When one change is complete, we pause, assess, and begin again. Done well, change builds its own momentum and draws people forward. Done poorly, it collapses under its own weight—because one or more of these truths was ignored or broken.

Bring everyone along. Let everyone contribute to their capacity. Share both the burden and the credit, but never the blame, that’s on you—and then—and only then will you change more than you ever imagined. #NeverFearTheDream

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Four Personal Promises

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First of a four-part series based on “The Four Agreements – A Tolec Wisdom Book”, by Ruiz

There are four personal promises which might transform your life. Easily made and so hard to keep; like most promises. These promises are to yourself for yourself. No one will know if you’ve kept them or not; only you, and you are the only one who counts. Promise to:

  • Choose your words carefully;
  • Take nothing personally;
  • Never make assumptions;
  • Do your best, always.

Your first personal promise –Choose your words carefully:

The words you speak or write reflect you for all the world to hear and see. Say what you mean; not what you think others want to hear. Express the truth without deriding or belittling anyone, especially yourself.

Your words are your power. They can build as easily as they can destroy. They are your force in the world. Your power to communicate and express your beliefs and opinions. But remember, they are your beliefs and opinions, not others. They are formed from your experiences, your beliefs, your aspirations, and especially by your ego.

Your words can be enduring, so be careful. Those who hear and read your words are absorbing and growing. They are trying to grow and learn just as you are. Your words can be thoughtful, inspiring, and uplifting. They can also be shallow, self-serving, hateful, and spread fear. There is enough of the later and not enough of the former. If your words spread hate, maybe just maybe you should keep them to yourself.

They are swords which can cut deeply in both ways. On one side the edge of truth and dignity. On the other, hate and lies. As you wield your sword be keenly aware of which blade is cutting. You are responsible for choosing your words. If your words express hope, support, and are uplifting you show yourself honorable and a person of integrity. If your words spread gossip, or seek revenge, you are showing the world your pettiness and shallowness. You are responsible for when and where you brandish your sword. Reflect upon your words before you express them. Choose your words carefully as they become you to others. You will be revered or reviled both at the same time. If you’ve chosen well with impeccability, you won’t have any regrets. Choose to hold your tongue rather than force others to hold their ears. #NeverFearTheDream