True friends are solid rock under your feet. Those who befriend for personal gain are shifting desert sands.
You’re born into a family. There’s a bond there; sometimes warm, sometimes strained, but it exists whether you asked for it or not. Friends are different. Friends are chosen. You choose them, and more importantly, they reciprocate that choice.
Some friends come from our reckless, impetuous youth. Some from our careers. Some from neighborhoods, teams, projects, and the accidents of geography. Time and distance shuffle the cast, but the real ones don’t become strangers. They steady you. They don’t demand a performance. They can disagree without turning you into a defendant. You remember them fondly, and when you see them again after years, you can still pick up mid-sentence, as if time never got a vote. That’s friendship. Not constant contact. An unshakable bond. These are the people you brought into each other’s lives, not for gain but for mutual support.
But there are others. People who orbit you for their own advantage. Their support is there—until it costs them something. Their loyalty is conditional. Their kindness comes with a receipt. They keep score, question motives, and disappear when you’re inconvenient or irrelevant. These relationships can be helpful, even mutually beneficial, but they’re transactions, not friendships. The difference between them is where people get hurt. With transactional allies, trust is offered in exchange for leverage.
Choose wisely, not selfishly. Choose friends for support, and benefits will often follow. Choose people for benefit, and deception shouldn’t surprise you. NeverFearTheDream simplebender.com
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Awakening means observing what truly is—not what you wish it to be—over and over until the truth becomes obvious. Awake from your dreamy slumber and embrace life’s reality. 26.01.3
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The Monroe Doctrine was meant to be a shield for a fledgling country: no European empires in the Americas, no more carving up this hemisphere by outside powers. It sounded like a defense of sovereignty and self-determination. Two centuries later, that shield has been reforged into something else—a license to police the hemisphere and enforce an American Hemispheric Order on our terms.
We claim to oppose foreign domination, yet we have become the dominant foreign power in other sovereign countries. When a government in the region dares to stray from our economic dogma or security script, we don’t send in Redcoats—we threaten and impose sanctions. Loans are conditioned. Sanctions are tightened. Diplomats whisper, intelligence agencies “assist,” and suddenly regime change appears not as an invasion but as a “restoration of democracy.” The vocabulary is polite; the outcome is familiar. Governments that cooperate survive. Governments that don’t are labeled unstable, extreme, or illegitimate. It isn’t about drugs, oil, or national security—it is about ego, power, and distraction from domestic failures and salacious files.
Flip that. Imagine a coalition of Latin American nations deciding that our politics are too corrupt, our inequality too obscene, and our elections too tainted by money. Imagine they declare an “Inter-American Responsibility Doctrine” and openly call for regime change in Washington to protect “hemispheric stability.” Picture them funding opposition groups, manipulating our media, freezing our assets, and threatening intervention—“for the sake of democracy,” of course. We would be apoplectic. We would call it aggression, pure and simple.
The hypocrisy deepens when you look at security. We pressure neighbors to crack down on crime, migration, and drugs, as if their failures are the source of our problems. Yes, trafficking networks and corrupt officials exist everywhere. But the demand, the guns, and much of the money flow from our side of the border. Rather than confront the discomfort of our own consumption, our own political greed-induced paralysis, and our own profit structures, we cast the neighbors as the problem and ourselves as the savior sheriff.
We insist on the right to shape their regimes while insisting no one has the right to shape ours. We dress intervention in the language of freedom while guarding our own system—flawed, gridlocked, and heavily purchased—as untouchable. It’s a double standard that everyone can see, whether we admit it or not. So here’s the uncomfortable mirror: if the rest of the hemisphere treated us exactly as we treat them—economically, politically, and rhetorically—would we still call it “promoting stability,” or would we finally call it what it feels like to them: unwelcome domination dressed as doctrine for ego and power? NeverFearTheDream simplebender.com
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You arrive with nothing and leave with nothing—but what will you leave behind? Don’t let your perceived insignificance keep you from doing something significant. Now it’s your turn.25.12.5
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Better to look the fool than be someone else’s. Don’t take yourself too seriously—the mighty and the meek share the same final chapter. Before you start your journey, ask if you’re prepared for the hardships or if you’re chasing the glory. 25.12.4.1
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Wisdom isn’t what you know—it’s what you do with what you know, and how quietly you do it. A sense of purpose gives people drive, direction, and more profound joy than knowledge alone ever could. 25.12.3
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Always return to your beginner’s mind—your shoshin. No matter your skill or experience, seek the wonder and energy of the first time. Good things don’t happen to just a few—it’s that a few choose to see the good in everything. 25.12.2
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Your faults are yours. Theirs are theirs. Strengthen yourself and accept others as they are. Don’t waste energy trying to change them—change yourself. See with sober eyes, both inward and outward. Step back from the stones of the mosaic to grasp the whole picture. Be self-sufficient, not isolated. 25.12.1
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Religion has always walked a knife-edge between faith and power. Religion is best when it brings comfort and worst when it becomes a tool of politics. Within our lifetime, there are two salient examples of the twisting of religion and state power: Iran and Russia. Two very different nations illustrate how this symbiotic relationship unfolds and precisely why our founders wisely established a separation between the church and the state. Spoiler alert—the walls are crumbling.
Iran: Mosque as State—Under the Shah, Iran’s clerics were suppressed, their influence diminished as the monarchy rushed to modernize. In 1979, the pendulum swung violently back. Ayatollah Khomeini and the mosque became the state itself. For decades, sermons dictated law, dissent was heresy, and the Revolutionary Guard enforced both politics and piety. Religion achieved supremacy at the cost of freedom.
Today, Iran’s youth — connected, progressive, impatient — are no longer persuaded by clerical authority. Protests after the death of Mahsa Amini revealed the fracture: religion wielded as control is no longer seen as sacred. The bargain that once restored the mosque’s power has hardened into a straitjacket, hollowing faith even as its institutions endure.
Russia: Saints for Soldiers—For most of the 20th century, the Russian Orthodox Church was brutalized under communism. Priests executed, cathedrals destroyed, believers silenced. When the Soviet Union collapsed, the Church sought revival — but revival required allies. Putin offered protection, prestige, and funding. In return, Patriarch Kirill and his bishops sanctified not only his rule, but his wars. Each branch of the Russian military is assigned a patron saint, and these are displayed as soldiers march—icons and rifles in hand. And mosaics of saints standing beside tanks and missiles—faith stitched into firepower.
It is a mutual, parasite-host alliance for survival. The Church props up the empire; the empire props up the Church. Orthodoxy regains prestige after decades of persecution, while the Kremlin secures sacred legitimacy for its conquests.
United States: Are Pulpits the Next Podiums?—Judeo-Christianity has influenced our national culture from its founding. Currently, church attendance is shrinking, younger generations walk away, scandals erode credibility, and the religiously unaffiliated approaches 30% of the population (PRRI). We are evolving into a secular nation of diverse beliefs. In this decline and transition, political power has become a lifeline for some of the more radical to guard against the nightmare of irrelevance becomes a reality.
Some fringe religious leaders now align with vocal politicians who promise to “fight for them,” to restore an age and influence gone by. In exchange, some of their pulpits have become podiums. Political leaders boast, “I hate my enemies,” and vow to “beat the hell out of them,” these words juxtaposed to:” do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” The contrast is crisp —aggressive pulpits now espouse vengeance rather than pleading for understanding. Rhetoric that contradicts the very teachings once held sacrosanct. The threat of pulpits becoming podiums is a genuine concern.
Lessons: Learn the Lessons—The parallels are clear. In Iran, religion became the state. In Russia, the Church promotes the empire for its own security. In America, the mainstream is often overshadowed by extremists who cling to authoritarian strongmen for cultural relevance and power—trading faith’s essence for influence.
When religion becomes a weapon of politics, the backlash is not revival but rebellion. These bargains may preserve institutions for a generation, but they ultimately lead to decay.
Like a Möbius strip, the inside and outside of faith and power continuously trade places, with no true end and no certainty. The loop is endless, the inversion unending — a path where faith loses its soul and nations lose their way, twisting around and around until revolt. The American founders understood this and wisely built institutional walls between state and church to prevent their blighted bonding, but now the walls are crumbling. #NeverFearTheDream
First published in Bend Bulletin 10/29/25
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