Posted in Philosophy

Sometimes HOPE Needs a Little HELP

Hope is stubborn. It is resilient. It is also fragile, and often, it isn’t self-sufficient. Sometimes it needs a little help. It survives in a world that holds both the best and the worst of us—breakthroughs and backslides, mercy and malice—often on the same day.

When hope thins, we don’t need slogans; we need help. Sometimes that help is borrowed from others. Sometimes we loan it to ourselves. It can be as simple as noticing the ground we’ve gained, not just the mud we’re stuck in. Much remains broken—violence, injustice, genocidal aggressors, and loneliness—but much has moved forward: more cures, more voices heard, more tools to repair what we once accepted as incurable, unrepairable, and unbelievable. Progress for many is not yet progress for all. Both truths can stand. As does the truth that hope can be easily lost, but there is help.

Help for hope usually arrives in small packages: a neighbor’s knock, a hand on a shoulder, a laugh that breaks a hard silence. Tidal art scribbled in seaweed and sand dollars. The warm, unjudging eyes of a favorite pet. A child’s cheering as the lopsided sandcastle dares the next wave. The constant roll of the ocean or the low thrum of a river reminds you that motion exists even when you feel still.

If you’re carrying more night than daylight, don’t ignore or romanticize it—and don’t accept or surrender to it. Ask for help. Offer some. Build tiny structures of meaning you can reach without a ladder.

Many say these are dark days; others say they’re a dawn. Either way, morning keeps its appointment. There will be a sunrise tomorrow, even if it is behind the storm clouds. Let it be the HELP your HOPE needs—and let your hands make the most of the light. Speak up and Stand up for yourself and those who can not. Be your own help if you can, and be the help others may seek. You may not be able to initiate hope’s growth, but you can certainly start removing what inhibits it.

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Posted in Current Events

Systematic Suppression and Decimation of the LGBTQ Community

Systematic suppression is the intentional and structured ways in which specific marginalized communities are denied rights, opportunities, and resources, leading to their disenfranchisement and inequality with the intent of rendering them non-existent. We have a front-row seat to watch many acts of suppression, from voting rights, immigration, women’s rights, and self-determination. Unconscionable as it might be, we watch acts of suppression accelerate daily. But what is even more concerning is America’s silent crisis—the systematic marginalization and decimation of our LGBTQ community, a pressing issue that demands our immediate and unwavering attention.

You don’t have to engage in direct violence to cause harm to a community. The deliberate restriction of social, legal, and support structures can inflict pain, suffering, and even death to suppress a group. Like enabling discriminatory organizations, you don’t have to be directly involved. Quietly supporting or endorsing legislative intolerance and withholding services can be just as damaging. This community only wants to live with the same protections and rights that all of us should have and expect.

Throughout history, various institutions and organizations have used a cornucopia of justifications to discriminate against minority groups. We are witness to similar patterns in the treatment of the LGBTQ community, where personal beliefs are being used to justify discrimination and denial of fundamental rights.

You may not agree with or approve of the LGBTQ community’s identity or lifestyle. It might even be repulsive, and it’s your right to have those perspectives. But that doesn’t give anyone the authority or right to work toward their marginalization, neglect, and exclusion. There are many more pressing issues to deal with. But, we are easily distracted and misdirected, so we target minorities and create issues where they aren’t. Unfortunately, we are all a part of some minority which might be the next target. You can try to soften it, call it something else, or close your eyes, but there is a fine line between decimation and genocide. This is America’s silent crisis, our silent genocide. It is the systematic suppression of a community within our community, and people are suffering because of it. People’s social structures, personal rights, and medical options are being destroyed and restricted only because some have taken it upon themselves to impose their personal views on others. While currently, the acts of physical violence may be isolated they still exist and are horrible. In addition, people are still being harmed through isolation, discrimination, and denial of fundamental rights. The youth within this community is 4.3 times more likely to attempt suicide than there straight friends. A quarter of this community has tried to kill themselves as compared to 6% of heterosexuals. This group is not just part of our community; they are individuals with hopes, dreams, and rights. These are people and they are being pushed to the brink. These are your neighbors, and amongst many things they are parents, clergy, first responders, care-givers, spiritual leader, legislators, educators, business owners, engineers, artists, authors, farmers, students, industry leaders, and on and on. This group isn’t the enemy. It is an integral thread of our lives tapestry and a critical part of our future. This community should not be silenced or erased, and efforts to do so should not be tolerated or excused. Let people live their lives; maybe everyone will let you live yours with the same dignity and respect.

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This was first published in the Bend Bulletin 3/5/25