Posted in Philosophy

When Ten Is Just Too Many…

Encourage ethical living through four simple principles

The bridge of life over turbulent river supported by four critical spans....

Religions and philosophies have long sought to distill the principles of life into something memorable and enduring. The story goes that Moses ascended the mountain to retrieve the Ten Commandments for his people. Ten was supposed to be simple. Yet if today’s headlines are any measure, ten is too many for too many. So let’s cut to the core—four principles that are not bound by any specific belief system, but are universal and can be practiced by anyone:

Act with reverence to all.
Cultivate generosity.
Be considerate in relationships.
Tell the truth with care.

Act with reverence to all.
The key phrase is to all. Reverence means respect, grace, and honor—offered not just to friends or allies but to those who oppose, insult, or dismiss you. You don’t have to like or agree with someone to treat them with dignity. Doing so shows moral maturity, honors both of you, and sets an example—even if it isn’t returned.

Cultivate generosity.
Generosity isn’t about giving away everything. It is a practice of timely kindness—offering what is needed, when it is needed, to whomever needs it. Like any skill, generosity grows through practice until it becomes second nature.

Be considerate in relationships.
Every intimate relationship carries hope and vulnerability. To honor that is to see beyond the carnal into the emotional and intellectual—embracing another’s fears and dreams without violating them. That takes openness and courage. And once you learn it in intimacy, extend it outward—adjusting the degree, but carrying consideration into every human interaction.

Tell the truth with care.
Truth matters—but it can wound. Some truths people bury, rewrite, or try to cancel because they hurt. Still, the truth must surface. The key is how we share it: directly, yet not cruelly, honestly, yet not demeaning. Speak truth the way you would want to hear it yourself. And remember, truth is rarely black and white; perspective adds the shades of gray that make it whole.

Headlines are filled with destruction, hatred, and division. We can’t stop it all. But each of us can live by these four guardrails. They are not lofty commandments carved in stone, just four simple principles to practice every day. Because ten may be too many, but we can manage four:

Reverence. Generosity. Consideration. Truth.

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No Place for Hate—Not Here

There is no room for Hate…NONE

There is no place for hate in our homes, our faiths, or our government—none. The grievances of Palestinians, Ukrainians, and displaced peoples around the world may be deep and justifiable—and may very well usher in generational hate. But we Americans have no excuse to let hate in. Not in our hearts, our homes, our places of worship—and definitely not in our policies.

Yet hate has become almost reflexive—normalized, even celebrated. It’s hoisted like a banner, waved by those clinging to lost causes and imagined enemies. It grows in minds and festers in rhetoric, often without genuine cause—and with no end goal beyond destruction and domination.

Those who lead or campaign on hate do so to divide, not to solve. Hate is a wedge—driven between communities to create illusionary superiority and incite rage. It doesn’t clarify; it confuses. It doesn’t elevate; it manipulates. When leaders resort to hate, they expose their inability to persuade, to unify, or to understand. Their bluster masks weakness. Their venom reveals fear. They seek the power of the mob, not the strength of dialogue or the courage of compromise.

Listen carefully: hate speech is no longer fringe. The denigration of individuals—by race, gender, belief, political group, or origin—has become a strategy. Its purpose is not discourse, but dominance. Not freedom, but control.

This country cannot be governed by contempt. We must reject those who exploit division. Hate has no place in a nation built on liberty—and none in a future worth striving for. America is stronger because of our diversity, not despite it. We are more mature—intellectually and emotionally—because of our historic willingness to understand and compromise.

Look neither backwards with anger nor forward with hate. Don’t give hate any space. Not here. Not now. Not tomorrow.

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Universities and Ideas Aren’t the Enemy

Ideas Breach Barriers–They cannot be Constrained

Universities are not fortresses of indoctrination or cabals of conspiracy. They are incubators of ideas, innovation, and independence. Yet, in times of fear, they often become scapegoats. History has shown us what happens when knowledge becomes the enemy, when inquiry is suspect, and when education is seen as subversion. As M. Bormann (Hitler’s Head of Party Chancellery) and Reichsmarschall Goring routinely espoused to propagate class warfare and division while creating Nazi Germany:

“Education is dangerous—every educated person is a future enemy.”

Today’s attacks on colleges, universities, and professors echo darker past chapters. When public figures brand professors as “the enemy,” claim that universities are “hostile institutions” conferring “legitimacy to the most ridiculous ideas,” they step into rhetorical territory dangerously close to totalitarian dogma. These aren’t just criticisms of curriculum but efforts to discredit education and incite division.

Ideas are powerful. So powerful, in fact, that J. Stalin once said, “Ideas are more powerful than guns. We would not let our enemies have guns—why should we let them have ideas?” Fearful, weak regimes suppress thought. Secure, free societies cultivate it. Indeed, ideas can wound more deeply than fists—and their scars often outlast bruises.

University campuses are cauldrons of friction and growth. For many, this is their first encounter with people from different faiths, regions, and ideologies. That tension—uncomfortable as it may be—tempers conviction and sharpens perspective. Whether you come out with your views fortified or transformed, you come out thinking. That is the point.

These institutions are not perfect—no system is—but they are essential. Universities question assumptions, rewrite narratives, and challenge dogma. They are both repositories of history and laboratories for the future. Without them, our medical breakthroughs, technological advances, and understanding of ourselves would stagnate.

This is not just about liberal arts colleges or elite universities. The attack on higher education is part of a broader attempt to discredit education at all levels—trade schools included. There is a symbiosis between designers and builders, researchers and craftsmen. One imagines, the other realizes. We need both.

“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” A. Einstein

And yet, some would shut the doors on curiosity itself. Book bans. Mandated curricula. Politically driven defunding. These are not acts of fiscal prudence—they are acts of intellectual cowardice perpetrated by those who are the beneficiaries of those same institutions. Education should be supported, not to control ideas but to unleash them. To ensure that research is guided by truth, not tribalism. To ensure the historical records are studied and analyzed, in their fullness, to guide us away from past folly and despair.

“For an idea that does not first seem insane, there is no hope.” A. Einstein

The freedom to think dangerously, to imagine the impossible, has been the lifeblood of progress. Yes, bad ideas exist—but so do good ones, and ironically, some of the most outlandish were once thought heretical. That is the risk of liberty: the right to be wrong, and the space to grow into something right.

Universities are not enemies of the people. They are expressions of a free people. Critique them, yes. Improve them, certainly. But fear them? Only if you fear ideas themselves, which some have and apparently some still do.

Because without ideas, there is no democracy. Only dogma, perpetual fear, and misinformation. Maybe it would be better to espouse, as René Descartes did: “I think; therefore I am.” 

This article was first published in the Bend Bulletin 6/21/25

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Systematic Suppression and Decimation of the LGBTQ Community

Systematic suppression is the intentional and structured ways in which specific marginalized communities are denied rights, opportunities, and resources, leading to their disenfranchisement and inequality with the intent of rendering them non-existent. We have a front-row seat to watch many acts of suppression, from voting rights, immigration, women’s rights, and self-determination. Unconscionable as it might be, we watch acts of suppression accelerate daily. But what is even more concerning is America’s silent crisis—the systematic marginalization and decimation of our LGBTQ community, a pressing issue that demands our immediate and unwavering attention.

You don’t have to engage in direct violence to cause harm to a community. The deliberate restriction of social, legal, and support structures can inflict pain, suffering, and even death to suppress a group. Like enabling discriminatory organizations, you don’t have to be directly involved. Quietly supporting or endorsing legislative intolerance and withholding services can be just as damaging. This community only wants to live with the same protections and rights that all of us should have and expect.

Throughout history, various institutions and organizations have used a cornucopia of justifications to discriminate against minority groups. We are witness to similar patterns in the treatment of the LGBTQ community, where personal beliefs are being used to justify discrimination and denial of fundamental rights.

You may not agree with or approve of the LGBTQ community’s identity or lifestyle. It might even be repulsive, and it’s your right to have those perspectives. But that doesn’t give anyone the authority or right to work toward their marginalization, neglect, and exclusion. There are many more pressing issues to deal with. But, we are easily distracted and misdirected, so we target minorities and create issues where they aren’t. Unfortunately, we are all a part of some minority which might be the next target. You can try to soften it, call it something else, or close your eyes, but there is a fine line between decimation and genocide. This is America’s silent crisis, our silent genocide. It is the systematic suppression of a community within our community, and people are suffering because of it. People’s social structures, personal rights, and medical options are being destroyed and restricted only because some have taken it upon themselves to impose their personal views on others. While currently, the acts of physical violence may be isolated they still exist and are horrible. In addition, people are still being harmed through isolation, discrimination, and denial of fundamental rights. The youth within this community is 4.3 times more likely to attempt suicide than there straight friends. A quarter of this community has tried to kill themselves as compared to 6% of heterosexuals. This group is not just part of our community; they are individuals with hopes, dreams, and rights. These are people and they are being pushed to the brink. These are your neighbors, and amongst many things they are parents, clergy, first responders, care-givers, spiritual leader, legislators, educators, business owners, engineers, artists, authors, farmers, students, industry leaders, and on and on. This group isn’t the enemy. It is an integral thread of our lives tapestry and a critical part of our future. This community should not be silenced or erased, and efforts to do so should not be tolerated or excused. Let people live their lives; maybe everyone will let you live yours with the same dignity and respect.

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This was first published in the Bend Bulletin 3/5/25

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Never Fear The Dream…

The fears created by your imagination are more insidious than reality. Don’t run from your fears; chase them. Your mind, especially a fatigued mind, can make your anxieties into terrible monsters. Monsters that rage within you and hold you in fear’s death grip. Rather than succumb to them, turn and face them. Turning your anxiety into a strength and every challenge an opportunity. 25.081

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