Posted in Philosophy

Parable: Grandad’s Scales: Honest Measure

boy holding a balance beam scale to weigh equity not equality

The old man sat on the porch, the autumn wind stirring the fallen leaves. His grandson, an impatient teen, leaned against the rail and sighed heavily.

“Opportunity for everyone—what a joke,” the boy muttered. “Not for us anymore. Maybe for someone else—they’ve taken everything.”

The grandfather didn’t answer. He reached for a small, rusted balance scale on the railing—an heirloom from his own father.

“You know this scale?” he asked. “Your great-grandad was a miner. He used it to weigh ore, but he said it measured something greater than metal—justice. Not everything weighs the same, but a good scale makes sure the measure is fair.”

He dropped a pebble on one pan. “This is what you think you’ve lost.” Then another. “And this, what someone else gained.”

The boy watched, his arms crossed, curiosity overtaking his frustration.

The old man added a third pebble, heavier than the rest. “This one’s the story you were told—that if their side rises, yours must fall. That story was sold by the same people who bent the beam and called it balance.”

The boy frowned. “What do you mean?”

“When I was your age,” said the grandfather, “we believed hard work guaranteed the climb. For a while, it did. Then markets changed and factories closed, machines got smarter, and those who owned the levers of money built taller ladders while the rest of us argued over who deserved the bottom rung. Now they feed you anger because angry men don’t notice the hands at the top pressing on the scale. They treat us like puppets—because too many dance when they pull the strings.”

He flipped the scale over; the pebbles scattered. The arms hung limp, like broken marionettes. “They’ve convinced you the problem is the person climbing beside you. But look closer—the scale isn’t even anchored to the ground anymore. The fight isn’t for equal weight; it’s for honest measure. Equity means measuring every stone’s, every person’s, its true worth.”

The boy’s jaw tightened. “So what do I do with that?”

The grandfather smiled. “Simple. Stop counting other people’s pebbles and start measuring their worth. Fix the scale. Learn, build, vote, speak, stand—not for the side you were born on, but for the fairness your great-grandad believed in. Opportunity isn’t gone, son. It’s just been disguised by those who need you too angry to see the game.”

The boy turned the scale in his hands. It felt lighter than he’d imagined—and suddenly, so did he. He set it on the railing, and as the arms found their balance, the old man said softly, “Remember, life’s not meant to be equal—it’s meant to be just.”#NeverFearTheDream

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Author’s Reflection — Equality vs. Equity

Equality assumes sameness, but nature has never been equal. No two stones weigh alike, no two lives start level. Equity is the art of fair measure — adjusting the balance so that justice, not uniformity, prevails. It asks that we see worth in context, not in comparison. The world doesn’t need everyone to carry the same load; it requires each of us to bear our share with integrity and pride. The lesson of the scale is simple: fairness isn’t about equal weight, but about honest measure — the foundation of any just and enduring society.

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Factoids for reference:

  • 54% of Black men born in the bottom income quintile remain there as adults, compared to 22% of White men.1
  • Hispanic children are more likely than Black children but less likely than White children to move up from the bottom 20% into the middle or top 40%.2
  • Black boys earn less than White boys in 99% of U.S. neighborhoods.1
  • Among children from low-income households, only 17% of White children remain in the bottom decile as adults versus 42% of Black children.3
  • Between cohorts born in 1978 and 1992, the racial mobility gap shrank by about 27%, yet Black men and Native Americans remain twice as likely as White men to experience downward mobility.4

1:(Brookings, 2018; Chetty et al., Opportunity Insights, 2018)

2:(Chicago Fed, 2023; Opportunity Insights, 2018)

3:(Equitable Growth, 2022; Pew Research Center, 2022)

4: (Equitable Growth, 2023; U.S. Census Bureau, 2024)

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Posted in Current Events

Systematic Suppression and Decimation of the LGBTQ Community

Systematic suppression is the intentional and structured ways in which specific marginalized communities are denied rights, opportunities, and resources, leading to their disenfranchisement and inequality with the intent of rendering them non-existent. We have a front-row seat to watch many acts of suppression, from voting rights, immigration, women’s rights, and self-determination. Unconscionable as it might be, we watch acts of suppression accelerate daily. But what is even more concerning is America’s silent crisis—the systematic marginalization and decimation of our LGBTQ community, a pressing issue that demands our immediate and unwavering attention.

You don’t have to engage in direct violence to cause harm to a community. The deliberate restriction of social, legal, and support structures can inflict pain, suffering, and even death to suppress a group. Like enabling discriminatory organizations, you don’t have to be directly involved. Quietly supporting or endorsing legislative intolerance and withholding services can be just as damaging. This community only wants to live with the same protections and rights that all of us should have and expect.

Throughout history, various institutions and organizations have used a cornucopia of justifications to discriminate against minority groups. We are witness to similar patterns in the treatment of the LGBTQ community, where personal beliefs are being used to justify discrimination and denial of fundamental rights.

You may not agree with or approve of the LGBTQ community’s identity or lifestyle. It might even be repulsive, and it’s your right to have those perspectives. But that doesn’t give anyone the authority or right to work toward their marginalization, neglect, and exclusion. There are many more pressing issues to deal with. But, we are easily distracted and misdirected, so we target minorities and create issues where they aren’t. Unfortunately, we are all a part of some minority which might be the next target. You can try to soften it, call it something else, or close your eyes, but there is a fine line between decimation and genocide. This is America’s silent crisis, our silent genocide. It is the systematic suppression of a community within our community, and people are suffering because of it. People’s social structures, personal rights, and medical options are being destroyed and restricted only because some have taken it upon themselves to impose their personal views on others. While currently, the acts of physical violence may be isolated they still exist and are horrible. In addition, people are still being harmed through isolation, discrimination, and denial of fundamental rights. The youth within this community is 4.3 times more likely to attempt suicide than there straight friends. A quarter of this community has tried to kill themselves as compared to 6% of heterosexuals. This group is not just part of our community; they are individuals with hopes, dreams, and rights. These are people and they are being pushed to the brink. These are your neighbors, and amongst many things they are parents, clergy, first responders, care-givers, spiritual leader, legislators, educators, business owners, engineers, artists, authors, farmers, students, industry leaders, and on and on. This group isn’t the enemy. It is an integral thread of our lives tapestry and a critical part of our future. This community should not be silenced or erased, and efforts to do so should not be tolerated or excused. Let people live their lives; maybe everyone will let you live yours with the same dignity and respect.

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This was first published in the Bend Bulletin 3/5/25

Posted in Political

Beyond Tokenism, Tribalism, and Wokeism

The issues and consternation we face with Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Accessibility aren’t new. Humanity is predisposed to tribalism and discrimination. We like to be around those who are like us….whether race, gender, creed, hobby, or sports team. This country has had an issue with DEIA from its start. The idea that someone gets something to fill a quota rather than being the most qualified just isn’t American.

We stand on a merit-based system. As a country, we have struggled with DEIA laws thrust upon us since post-Civil War reconstruction and especially since the Civil Rights Act of 1964. We reject the concept of merit and privilege being replaced with legislation trying to eliminate discrimination because the result is systematic alienization and reverse discrimination.

Diversity is not just a preference; it’s a necessity in business, sports, education, social interaction, and life. The ideas, experiences, prowess, and insights of other nationalities, races, genders, and creeds enrich our lives and country. It’s a vibrant aspect of our nation—a nation of immigrants.

Equity is not equality. It’s about ensuring everyone is on an equal footing. The privileged should not be treated any better or worse than the impoverished, and the rich should not have any more access to political officials than the hoi polloi. The challenge is: How can you ensure equity when the playing field has never been level? None of us start with the same privileges or handicaps. Treating everyone equally only perpetuates and extends inequities. And if you believe the education system and/or medical care in this country is equal for all, you’ll struggle to understand any of this.

We stand on a merit-based system. We reject the idea of nepotism and ‘pay to play’ influence. Right? Yet, we all know the person who got the job because their parent knew someone, had money, or owned the company. We stand on merit, right? I understand the frustration with DEI. I was once told I would hire a specific person for an open, publicly posted position. The job description was unambiguous. Looking at the resume, the new hire didn’t appear to be a good match, but that didn’t matter. Quickly checking my DEI card, I recognized there was, in fact, justification for the hire, regardless of qualification. The new employee was part of an exclusive minority. With a little extra time, patience, and training, the company finally had a good employee. The child of a sitting U.S. Senator allowed us to check a box and have an amazingly unique perspective at break time. Merit didn’t matter then; to some, it doesn’t matter now. Of course, the good-ole-boy, nepotistic system was always so much better in so many ways, right?

Remember that DEI never intended to mean ‘Don’t Ever Integrate.’ It was meant to be a way to give opportunities to all people, not just those with connections. Is the current direction and directives about merit or returning to our country’s quasi-legal racial segregation state? As cop killers and killing cops are pardoned, the answer may already be self-evident. Courage and Be Bold   

#NeverFearTheDream   simplebender.com @simplebender.bsky.social

This was first printed in the Bend Bulletin 1/30/25 titled: Measuring merit and diversity

Posted in Philosophy

Striking a Balance With Equality and Equity

Thomas Jefferson metaphorically penned, ‘all men are created equal’ knowing this wasn’t the case. Not only are we not created equal, but we will also live and die that way. Let me ask; as a civil society, should we strive for equality, or equity, or their combination?

We are inundated with initiatives trying to make things equal and to ‘level the playing field’. Enacted Federal and State laws mandate equality. To a great regard those efforts have enabled many to achieve great things. Achievements only a few decades ago they wouldn’t have had the opportunity to even try; let alone succeed. And yet, today we are seeing an extreme backlash of those initiatives. Rejection by those who believe their inherent privileges have been stolen and given to others. Evidently, efforts for equality have resulted in a sense of winners on the backs of losers. Even though their misplaced perception of loss is far far greater than reality.

Could we possibly reframe the discussion away from equality and focus on equity? Should everything be equal? Must the ‘playing field’ be level? Or could we try to find ‘both/and’ solutions rather than ‘either/or’ ones. Solutions where everyone can win and achieve. We could be looking for objective oriented opportunities. Those which encourage everyone to achieve the desired goal.

Not everyone needs the same level of assistance to achieve the same goal. Some don’t need any and some need a lot. Making everything equal may not be the right approach. Overcompensating some while others may still be lacking and fail.

Equity is not equality. Presuming equal opportunity, consider three youngsters wanting to watch a ball game but are on the wrong side of a fence. Their height differs; one tall, one medium and the other, well just short. There is sufficient material to make six, one-foot-tall, boxes for them to stand upon. Equality would be each of them getting two boxes to stand on to watch the game. In this case the tall one, who could almost already see over the fence is over compensated. The middle one can now watch the game. However, the short one is still too short to watch. Everything is equal but the goal wasn’t achieved. Equity would rearrange the boxes to give the tall one, a single box; the middle one two, and the short one would get three boxes. This is clearly not equal. Yet now, each of the children can easily stand and watch the game. Even though the distribution of assets wasn’t equal, the goal is achieved, and everyone is happy with the outcome. Everyone won.

No one ever promised the world would be fair. No one should expect everything to be equal. It just doesn’t work that way. Inequalities surround us. However, all people, must be treated equally, have equal rights, and equal opportunity. Not because it’s the law but because it’s the right thing. Some people are born to privilege, others to poverty. Some are physically or mentally blessed, and others struggle with either or both. Our public policies could consider balancing equality with equity. Can we promote equal opportunity and equity in resource allocation?

Let’s focus on achievement rather than equality. Focus on finding ‘both/and’ solutions rather than defaulting to ‘either/or’. We celebrate Black History Month and recognize the amazing contributions of so many from such meager beginnings. While we learn to treat everyone equally, let’s stop trying to make all things equal and stop sanitizing history. There are some things which need equality and some which would benefit by equity. Those who need more should receive more. Those who need less should be willing to get less. Equality is not equity, and we need both.