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A National Midlife Crisis

walking toward our future or our decline? a nation in a midlife crisis

Every person ages, though few like to admit it. We prefer the glow of our youth—when everything felt strong, certain, and inevitable—we recoil from the mirror’s reflection that tells a harsher truth. The United States is now, as an aging adult, staring down its own midlife crisis: restless, nostalgic, anxious about declining vitality, and unsure of its purpose. And like any midlife crisis, it is largely self-inflicted.

As a fledgling republic, we leaned heavily on foreign counsel and support, learning to stand upright on principles whose ink was still wet. We quarreled with the empire that birthed us, a restless adolescent convinced that independence alone equaled maturity. In our late teens, our Manifest Destiny carried us across a continent—eager, energized, and careless. We violated Indigenous sovereignty, claimed vast stretches of land, and seldom paused long enough to reflect on the cost—youth rarely do.

Then came the moment we stepped beyond our borders to confront tyranny abroad. Isolation gave way to global responsibility, and in defeating fascism, we crowned ourselves “leader of the free world.” That era—the Greatest Generation era—became our cultural mythology of peak performance. In economic terms, we hit our stride: strong, wealthy, ambitious, so confident we assumed the world wanted our model replicated everywhere.

Adulthood matured us further. We recognized injustices at home and, imperfectly, pushed to correct them. We abolished poll taxes, dismantled legal segregation, expanded civil rights, and reached for gender equality—though we famously stumbled in ratifying the ERA. Still, we dreamed big. We mapped the ocean floor and walked the lunar surface. We believed no frontier was beyond reach.

But adulthood also revealed strain. Our swagger dimmed through a string of grinding foreign conflicts where overwhelming force could not overcome local pride or nationalist resolve. Regime change efforts faltered. Confidence thinned. The armor dulled. The steps slowed. The world noticed.

Now we resemble a nation in midlife denial. We want the prowess of our youth without the discipline, unity, or sacrifice that once produced it. We have become too large, internally conflicted, and politically stiff to move with the nimble decisiveness we admire in our own past. Instead of planning the next horizon, we rummage through the attic of lost greatness and flirt with symbolic trappings of monarchy—strongman fantasies, grievance crowds, and performative nationalism. These are not signs of renewed vigor; they are early symptoms of institutional cognitive decline and are affected by it.

The irony is painful: past generations always knew our shared mission. We debated the path but rarely the direction. Today, the direction itself is disputed, diluted, or abandoned. A country without a horizon behaves like a retiree with no hobbies—restless, resentful, and tempted by delusion.

Yet midlife crises can be turning points if met with humility and long-view statesmanship. Older nations that endure do so by learning from their past without worshipping it, by building for the grandchildren rather than reconstructing their own adolescence. The future is not reclaimed by nostalgia but by vision. Let’s not just look back; let’s learn from our past, reflect on it, and use it to shape our future.

So let us do what adults do at their best: acknowledge our age, accept our limitations, but not be defined by them, and chart a path worthy of those who will inherit this place. Square our shoulders, and focus forward—not back. Our midlife crisis can be a descent or a rebirth. We choose which. Collectively, with a common focus, let’s reject the polarizing radical positions of the extreme amongst us. Let’s encourage the great masses of the middle to lead us forward toward new goals and our next horizon. Let’s remember, we are all in this together, and it’s our shared responsibility to shape the future of our nation. simplebender.com

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The best answers are often the simplest—fewer variables, and fewer assumptions. 25.10.2.1

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Parallax of Truth… Perspective’s Facets

Our view of events is our perspective. As much as we value our experiences and hold our viewpoints in high regard, perspective differs from Truth.

Perspective is shaped by a lifetime of influences—experiences, education, training, family, friends, and the organizations we belong to. These factors color how we interpret what we see and hear. Perspectives aren’t inherently wrong—but they aren’t inherently right either. In today’s polarized, “no-gray-area” world, where nuance is often lost, this idea can be unsettling or outright rejected. Of course, my perspective is correct—what I see is what I see. But are you absolutely sure? We like to believe we wouldn’t deceive ourselves. And yet, we often do—unknowingly.

Try this: extend your arm, raise a finger, and align it with a distant object. Now close one eye, then the other. Notice how your finger shifts left or right depending on which eye is closed. Your eyes, just inches apart, see differently. So, which view is correct?

Neither. Both. That’s the point. It takes multiple viewpoints to approach the whole Truth. Without both eyes open, you lose focus and depth perception—the ability to judge distance and spatial relationships is skewed. Everything flattens into a single plane. Truth becomes distorted, even as your perspective seems perfectly valid.

Perspective is not the whole Truth. It’s a fragment of it. And if such a slight difference in viewpoint can shift what we see, imagine how much greater the distortion becomes when shaped by different life experiences, cultures, ideologies, and geographies. That’s why two people standing shoulder to shoulder can witness the same event—and come away with different interpretations.

Now consider the effect of ideology—a corrective or distorting lens we all possess. Ask yourself: Does your ideological lens help you see more clearly, or has it merely reshaped your version of the truth to make it more convenient? But the Truth is not about convenience.

If we claim to stand for Truth—and we should—that means being willing to hear perspectives beyond our own, even when they challenge us. It also means others should be willing and eager to listen to ours. Truth is not found in a single view, but in the kaleidoscope of many. No perspective is inherently more valuable or “right” than another.

We must not bury history, suppress ideas, ban books, or restrict academic inquiry. These are not acts of Truth-seeking—they are acts of fear. Instead, we should welcome diverse thought and experience in the shared pursuit of Truth.

Just know that the truth will set you free. The alternative is censored, willful ignorance—and that is not freedom. And remember, it is impossible to plan a journey by looking back and wishing to reclaim your steps. It is difficult if you’re looking down watching every step, but entirely possible if you keep both eyes open, look forward, and seek others’ perspectives.

Let’s accept that our view is ours, and we need others to fully appreciate the Truth that envelops us. Let’s plan our collective journey, appreciating where we have come from, acknowledging where we are, and setting a path to a better future.

This article was first published in the Bend Bulletin 5/20/25

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Never Fear The Dream….

It takes time for things to happen in an instant. If you cannot explain why you are doing something, what it entails, or where it will lead, it’s best to pause until you can.25.05.3

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Mental Health—Talk About IT

Everyone knows someone suffering from mental health issues, yet we’re too afraid to talk about it—and may not even know it. There are no minor mental health issues—some may be more acute than others, but all can become dangerously serious. From depression to suicidal thoughts, from dementia to delusional episodes, from feelings of worthlessness to exaggerated ego driven narcissism—mental illness surrounds us in all its variations.

This health crisis extends far beyond individuals. It impacts every family, community, and nation, yet we discuss the 725 people with measles in Texas more than the millions facing mental health challenges. Perhaps this is because measles and other infectious diseases can be controlled with vaccines and common sense. Mental health, however, remains an insidious challenge with no simple cure and few willing to discuss it.

Mental health conditions are indiscriminate in whom they affect. They’ve silently taken down elite athletes, brilliant minds, and everyday people alike. The impacts rarely make headlines but invariably stigmatize both those affected and their families. Why can we freely discuss a broken bone but not a troubled mind?

We readily discuss curable conditions because we can envision their end. While science continues making remarkable advances in physical health and immune therapy, mental health issues remain stubbornly resistant to consistent solutions, despite ongoing research. Watching someone navigate life with a physical disability can inspire us. Yet watching someone struggle with mental illness often makes us uncomfortable and frequently goes unrecognized.

Starting today and every day forward, commit to facing mental health challenges openly and bravely. Don’t shy away, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Whether confronting depression, Alzheimer’s, dementia, suicide, or any other mental health condition—approach it with compassion. It isn’t easy. People you love may change, and you’ll both struggle to find them through the fog. Don’t add to their burden—help lighten their load in whatever way you can.

If you notice someone with a semicolon tattoo, acknowledge their struggle or that of their loved one. This simple symbol gains profound meaning when understood—just as mental health does when confronted openly rather than hidden from view.

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Never Fear The Dream…

Being wrong isn’t a problem—refusing to change when presented with credible new information is. Before judging someone’s anger or depression, ask about their pain and suffering. Understanding their struggles may transform your perspective. 25.17

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Never Fear The Dream…….

You cannot change the circumstances you find yourself in. But you can logically assess, understand, and accept. Don’t worry about yesterday’s actions and words, nor be anxious about tomorrow’s. If you are, you miss the pleasures of today. You can navigate through virtually anything that confronts or confounds you. You really can if you want to.   25.12

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Never Fear The Dream…..

Don’t hold your ideas too superior or too sure. Challenge them. In reflection, some of the last century’s great truths are mocked today as ridiculous and shallow. Just as our thoughts and ideas will be a century hence. As hard as it is to hear, the world doesn’t revolve around you, regardless of your self-conceived worth. And yet, each of us has a part in how the world unfolds.  25.11

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Beyond Tokenism, Tribalism, and Wokeism

The issues and consternation we face with Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Accessibility aren’t new. Humanity is predisposed to tribalism and discrimination. We like to be around those who are like us….whether race, gender, creed, hobby, or sports team. This country has had an issue with DEIA from its start. The idea that someone gets something to fill a quota rather than being the most qualified just isn’t American.

We stand on a merit-based system. As a country, we have struggled with DEIA laws thrust upon us since post-Civil War reconstruction and especially since the Civil Rights Act of 1964. We reject the concept of merit and privilege being replaced with legislation trying to eliminate discrimination because the result is systematic alienization and reverse discrimination.

Diversity is not just a preference; it’s a necessity in business, sports, education, social interaction, and life. The ideas, experiences, prowess, and insights of other nationalities, races, genders, and creeds enrich our lives and country. It’s a vibrant aspect of our nation—a nation of immigrants.

Equity is not equality. It’s about ensuring everyone is on an equal footing. The privileged should not be treated any better or worse than the impoverished, and the rich should not have any more access to political officials than the hoi polloi. The challenge is: How can you ensure equity when the playing field has never been level? None of us start with the same privileges or handicaps. Treating everyone equally only perpetuates and extends inequities. And if you believe the education system and/or medical care in this country is equal for all, you’ll struggle to understand any of this.

We stand on a merit-based system. We reject the idea of nepotism and ‘pay to play’ influence. Right? Yet, we all know the person who got the job because their parent knew someone, had money, or owned the company. We stand on merit, right? I understand the frustration with DEI. I was once told I would hire a specific person for an open, publicly posted position. The job description was unambiguous. Looking at the resume, the new hire didn’t appear to be a good match, but that didn’t matter. Quickly checking my DEI card, I recognized there was, in fact, justification for the hire, regardless of qualification. The new employee was part of an exclusive minority. With a little extra time, patience, and training, the company finally had a good employee. The child of a sitting U.S. Senator allowed us to check a box and have an amazingly unique perspective at break time. Merit didn’t matter then; to some, it doesn’t matter now. Of course, the good-ole-boy, nepotistic system was always so much better in so many ways, right?

Remember that DEI never intended to mean ‘Don’t Ever Integrate.’ It was meant to be a way to give opportunities to all people, not just those with connections. Is the current direction and directives about merit or returning to our country’s quasi-legal racial segregation state? As cop killers and killing cops are pardoned, the answer may already be self-evident. Courage and Be Bold   

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This was first printed in the Bend Bulletin 1/30/25 titled: Measuring merit and diversity

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Never Fear The Dream…

The hardest part of any task is simply starting. Take a deep, calming breath and begin. Don’t worry too much about your course—just know your “why”; your “how” will follow.  Don’t hesitate to pause, assess, and adjust your direction if necessary. It’s better to make corrections than to fail. It’s also easier to alter your course at the beginning than near completion. Have patience and faith in yourself—your creativity and focus will rule the day. 25.03

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