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Locked-In or Locked-Out

Locks are interesting.  Not the physical mechanical device but what they represent and our perception of intent and purpose.   Inherently, they protect, secure, and isolate.  If those functions focus on physical property, then they are performing as originally intended.  How often have you been locked out from a place you felt you should have free access?  How often has your mind locked you into physical limits? How many times have you locked in your emotions or options?  How many times have you locked your intellectual or creative boundaries.

All around us are metaphorical locks.  Limiters placed upon us by others.  Barriers and obstacles placed to impede us, limit us, and/or control us.  Those are locks you don’t control.  You don’t have the key, and maybe don’t know who does.  That doesn’t mean the lock will hold.

Locks have a function.  They shouldn’t be the instruments which limit and isolate you; you, as a person, as an athlete, as a creator, as a learning, caring, participating person.  It’s bad enough, there are those around us, even our friends and family, who want to put locks on us. It’s worse yet when we lock-up ourselves.

We know who controls those locks; but, do we have the courage to grab our own keys and start unlocking?  Are we strong enough to push through physical barriers when our mind says, ‘you’re done, push no harder’?  Are we smart enough to continue to learn and press our intellectual envelope? Are we confident enough in our bedrock beliefs to challenge them with counter beliefs?

If we are willing to do these things, will we do them with an open or locked mind and spirit?  If the locks aren’t open and removed, then it doesn’t matter how many outside locks continue to ‘limit us’.  We are the gate keeper and have placed the most important locks on ourselves.  We shouldn’t complain about the locks we don’t control until we’ve unlocked ourselves.

Focus on unlocking yourself.  Unlock your physical, intellectual, and emotional self without fear or indecision.  Challenge every aspect of yourself and free yourself of your own locks.

#NeverFearTheDream  #LockedInorLockedOut #MakeItGreat #WatchoutForTheCrazies

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Who am I?

It’s the hardest question seldom asked.  It’s the question I should be asking myself before I ask; Who are you?  And it’s the question only I can answer.

The answer isn’t what I’ve done.  That’s ‘What I was.’  It isn’t what I’m going to do.  That’s ‘What I want to be.’  It’s not what I know; because the more I think I know the more I know I don’t know.  It isn’t what I believe; because my beliefs have changed as I’ve lived life.  Who I am, is a swirling blend of them all.

What I’ve done is my foundation for what I want to do.  I am what I was and what I hope to be. What I think I know is the foundation for what I currently believe.  I’ve learned from what I thought I knew and challenge what I believe.  It’s upon these shifting foundations I will build my future.  I will Never Fear the Dream, but I will have a Dream.

Who am I?  Because I’m alive, I’m excited to think I’ll probably never be able to succinctly answer the question; but, I’ll keep asking.  If you are living and growing, you probably can’t answer either.  And that’s okay.  Be who you are; because, in your own way, you are amazing.

 

#NeverFearTheDream  #WhoAmI #MakeItGreat  #WatchoutForTheCrazies

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Have or Make…..

My father-in-law was in the habit of saying goodbye with ‘have a great one…’.  He was a thoughtful man and truly wanted you to have, not a ‘good’, but a ‘great one’.  However, phrase ‘have a great..’ anything has always struck me a bit passive, almost submissive.    Why be satisfied with ‘have a great one’ when you can ‘MAKE a great one’?

You’re in control of, and responsible for, yourself.  How you think about and perceive things.  How you act and react.  If you want a great day why wait for fate, or destiny, or someone else to give it to you.  No one can make it great, or crappy, except for you.  You choose.

Every minute of every day you are presented with challenges.  Opportunities to excel.  How you perceive them dictates how you will respond.  Will you allow them, or someone, to control the outcome?  Should you? Why would you?

If you are going to resolve to do anything this new year, commit yourself to taking charge of yourself and MAKE a great one….

And in the world we live in today I’d be remise not to include my Dad’s succinct goodbye… ‘watch out for the crazies…’  I’m just glad he didn’t say ‘watch out; you’re crazy…’

MAKE A GREAT ONE….It’s crazy not to…..

 

#watchoutforthecrazies  #makeagreatone  #neverfearthedream

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Know Your Why; Plan Your How…..

 

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Know Your Why; Plan Your How…….

We are being inundated by social media, newspaper editorials and comics, radio and tv commercials, coaches, managers, friends, neighbors, and family imploring us to set our New Year’s goals.   There is not passion in goals.  They will leave you unsatisfied if too low, disillusioned if too high, and/or are rendered meaningless and summarily dismissed if too much of your environment changes. Let’s not spend any time on something we’re going dismiss; so, just say NO to goals.  What, no goals?….that’s right;  NO goals.

Rather than goals; know your why and plan your how.  We’ve been taught and browbeat to establish ‘SMART’ goals.  However, nothing in a ‘SMART’ goal is from your soul, no commitment, no understanding of WHY that’s your pursuit, your dream.  Look deep inside and clearly determine why you want to commit to accomplish anything.  Without a clear WHY, you can’t really focus, will miss your mark and fail.

Keep asking yourself why until your motivations and aspirations are clear. Once you articulate WHY, plan your HOW.  Your plan should acknowledge your strengths, weaknesses, fears, and confidences.  Bolster your strengths and focus on your weaknesses.  Include regular opportunities to benchmark your progress.  Strive for constant improvement, ok, maybe that’s your goal; but not your end.  With a WHY and a PLAN there is no end.  There is a cycle Plan-Do-Check, repeat.  You can adjust your plan to account for changing circumstance, as long as it squarely addresses your dream.

Don’t limit yourself by setting goals.  Dig deep; know your why and plan your how and get better and better and better…..

 

#NeverFeartheDream

Posted in Current Events, Philosophy

I Know…

Standing in line at the Post Office the week before Christmas is always fun; it’s the people.  Complete strangers sharing the plague of the queue, weary arms hugging overweight packages, and more than knowimagewilling to engage in conversation to pass the time in line.  It was the guy wearing the unbelievable holiday sweater who caught my eye and then my ear.  He was pontificating, to anyone who would listen, on his  knowledge of domestic and international politics and his disgruntlement with recent cabinet selections.   A demure woman commented about how worldly his knowledge was and that obviously he had traveled extensively.  To her surprise, he told her he had never been outside of the state.
I paused to ponder his acclaimed knowledge.  And then, contemplated my own; and asked myself, ‘what do I really know?’  Not just believe, but know.  I’m reasonably well educated, thanks to my folks (really I’ve not squandered my college education, really…).  I’ve seen a lot.  I’m reasonably well read, or so my library would imply.  I’ve traveled from north of the arctic circle to below the equator and to 4 continents. I’ve heard a lot more than I care to, especially from folks who don’t know.  I’ve been told a lot.  And, I guess I’ve experienced a lot.
 
But, through it all, what do I really know.  What I’ve heard and read can be easily discounted as opinion, except for most of my engineering; some of which is now changing.  Main stream media is biased, slanted, unabashedly opinionated, and cares more about being first than being right.  Social media  is an unreliable, unverifiable, and an interesting  social experiment.  What I’ve seen, is only really good from the perspective I viewed the scene.  What I’ve experienced is influenced by my perspective on the event and my collective experiences in life. 
What I’ve resolved is this;  for all I think I know simply shows me how much I don’t know; and the more I know, the more I know I don’t know…..
There will always be that which I simply believe; but, what I do know; is that I’m not going to believe the guy in the ugly sweater…..
#NeverFearTheDream

 

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Silhouettes…..

Silhouettes…..
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Long after the buds became leaves.  After the green leaves fluttered in the warm summer breeze.  After they slowly changed to yellow and red radiance in the crisp fall air.  Soon after they lost their grasp and fell to the ground.  Their silhouettes magically appear for us to remember and enjoy their existence.  So are our memories of people and events of our lives.  We desperately strive to make some always present and pray painful ones quickly fade.  With time, details become blurred; but, are forever emblazoned upon our soul. They make us what we are and will influence what we will be.  Your silhouette has and will undoubtedly be part of other’s future, so be as unforgettable as possible.   Don’t be alarmed, your’s too will be one to remember to some and hoped to fade to others.  Either way, you may get only one chance; make the best of it.
#NeverFeartheDream
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What’s Right…?

It’s all in your perspective, and yours to control.   Every day we hear someone ask “what’s wrong” or, comment “what’s wrong is…”.  But how many times do you hear, or more importantly think, ‘What’s, right…”?  It’s engrained in us to look for and expect the negative; but, why?  From my perspective, there’s a lot which should and could be changed.  From someone else’s, maybe not so much, or not at all. Therein lies the conundrum and the opportunity.

Every day is filled with infinite opportunities to ask, and answer, ‘what’s right’.  It’s within your control to do so.  It’s up to you how you react to comments and actions.  Your reactions are not the responsibility of the tormentor; they are yours and yours to control.  Focus, find something you enjoy in every situation, and enjoy the hell out of it.  Everything else associated with a pretty poor situation can be managed.  Managed, not condoned or tolerated; but, accepted for what it is, not how you’re going to react.  If you can’t think through the situation, you’ve stopped thinking and are now just emotional and reactionary.  You’ve lost control and yielded to that which is your very torment.

Start with what’s right with you.  If you don’t get any further, that’s ok, you don’t need to.  Knowing what’s right with you will get you through a lot.  A lot more than you can imagine.  Accept yourself.  It’s who you are; not necessarily who you want to be.  But, today, at this moment, it’s who you are.  Recognize those ‘rights’ and use the strengths to your advantage as you move forward. If you focus on what’s wrong, everything you encounter will only reinforce the ‘wrong’.  Stop asking the wrong question.

What’s, right?  I’d say you are, and today is another day to excel.

#NeverFeartheDream

Posted in Philosophy

Seriously….

Ok, as a lot of you know we’ve recently moved and that means the indignation of having to review and retake the new state’s driving test.

I’m really ok with it because laws for different areas need to be known.  After all, who knew I had to know the hand signals for a horseback rider sharing the road.

But seriously, I’m 59, half deaf, half blind and have been wearing bi-focals for almost 20 years; and guess what, I can see well enough to pass the vision test without glasses…..Seriously…Now, I’m really scared about the other drivers and that dang cowboy….good grief…

#NeverFearTheDream

Posted in Philosophy

9/12 revisited

There is a significant difference between, ‘taking a knee’, and raising a clinched fist…..

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Spirit of 9/12….

img_0919Fifteen years ago we, collectively and individually, took a knee to pray, in our own way, for those we lost, their families, the country, and the world.  We raised our flag and our heads showing the world, and ourselves, we were united and strong.

Fifteen years later, where’s the Spirit of 9/12?  Our politicians, “leaders”, and the media have artfully categorized and sub-categorized us, driven wedges between us, all for their benefit; not ours.  With their help and guidance, we slide down the slippery slope of judging all by the actions of a small few.  We no longer seek common ground, only ground to defend.

Our country was founded and is strengthened by our diversity.   Our diversity allows us to accept and grow uniquely in the world.  We should, readily and openly, acknowledge the problems and injustices which exist.  Not to let them define who we are; but, to use them and solve them. Strengthen our resolve to become better individuals and a better nation.  Be responsible and accountable for your actions and reactions. Do not let circumstances or others dictate your response.

We watch people today taking a knee to acknowledge and highlight injustice and their hope for tomorrow; but, a knee is a lot better than a rock.  Remember, fifteen years ago we all took a knee.  Judge less, accept and respect more. Consider; you might be in the minority and yet, you still want your voice heard and your position understood. Our future is as bright as we allow it to be; because, we are stronger together than divided.  We showed that fifteen years ago…

Let the Spirit of 9/12 be our guide, and Never Forget….

Never Fear the Dream…….