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Never Fear The Dream…

We cherish time with loved ones only when death is near, yet squander the ample time we have with them while they’re still alive. 25.06.02

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Uniquely American: Civil Discord and Disobedience

Ideas can wound more deeply than fists—their scars often outlast bruises. But dissent isn’t treason; it’s the American expectation. The audacity to voice a contrarian view without fear of punishment was once a defining feature of our national character. That freedom, that courage, is slipping.

A fundamental right is to stand, speak, write, or peacefully protest what you believe is wrong. It’s a moral responsibility at the core of our civic being. It is how we started. As Americans, it is who we are.

Yes, this right has been repeatedly abused and suppressed: during the Civil Rights Movement, LGBTQ advocacy, and Black Lives Matter protests. These weren’t our proudest moments—they were our failures. And yet, we are better than those moments. And we are better because of them. Just as we should be better than today’s attempts to silence pro-Palestinian and pro-Ukrainian voices, or to weaponize immigration enforcement.

Yes, public safety matters. And yes, misinformation can be dangerous, especially when weaponized at scale. But the line between protection and suppression is perilously thin. When fear becomes a rationale for silencing protest, we drift toward authoritarianism under the guise of security.

But let me be honest. I write this as someone of privilege—a white male in the dominant race and gender. I’ve never feared for my safety when expressing my views. I’ve never had to calculate the cost of speaking out to simply be heard. That insulation is not universal. And acknowledging that it is the least I can do.

The truly brave are those who speak anyway, knowing the risks. Minorities are demanding the rights that this country claims to guarantee. Immigrants who were escaping violence and chasing a future are thrust back into violence. And yet, their domestic complicit employers are not subject to the heavy hand of the law. The Pro-Palestinian voices speaking into the silence of global indifference as their homeland, their homeland of generations, is taken and broken, and their families are indiscriminately killed and starved. And even those supporting Ukraine as it fiercely defends its children and its homeland from slaughter by an invading army.

They are the ones carrying this nation’s conscience forward. They take the blows, not for fame or ideology, but for survival and dignity. The road to a better America is paved by those who get off the couch and speak out through civil dialogue, discord, and yes, disobedience.

This country grows not by force, but by engagement. We will be stronger when those in power trade masks and riot gear for open conversation—and when fabricated, non-existent, dystopian, national “emergencies” are no longer used to justify suppression. When we are afraid to speak out, the words of others fill the void, becoming all that is heard. When those of us who can speak don’t, we become complicit in the decay. The slide is ours to stop; or ours to be held accountable.

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Never Fear The Dream…

Sometimes, you must relinquish what you have to gain what you truly want. Resist your natural inclination to trust what you see. Life and people often hide behind many cloaks, veils, and illusions. 25.06.1

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History Is Screaming—To Be Heard

Never forget the long shadow of history….

The echoes of history serve as powerful lessons of the consequences of forgetting our past. Throughout time, humanity has faced recurring challenges that, when ignored, tend to repeat themselves in devastating ways.

History’s lessons are written in the experiences of those who came before us. The Holocaust victims’ voices scream to remind us that unchecked hatred and persecution can lead to unimaginable human suffering. And yet, some of their descendants are perpetrators of similar horror.

Similarly, the suppression of academic freedom, knowledge, and the rule of law under totalitarian regimes like those of Stalin, Mao, and Pol Pot warns us about the dangers of attacking educational systems, free thought, and the judiciary. Universities and professors aren’t the enemy–closed minds are. The constant drone of verbal assaults, threats, and misinformation is fueling the flames of unfounded fears, conspiracies, and vile responses. We, as a society, must value and protect our educational institutions. They play a key role in preserving the lessons of history and challenging minds with ideas they may have never considered. Each of us has a part to play in this preservation, making us all integral to the process.

Our democratic foundations were carefully crafted to balance power– to protect against excesses of powers by any of the three equal branches–and require constant vigilance to maintain. When we fail to understand or conveniently ignore these principles, we risk eroding constitutional values that have guided our nation. This becomes especially critical as we witness the rise of polarization, intolerance, and power grabs in modern politics, governance, and civil discourse. Our founders are screaming for us to pay attention and have the courage they had to stand up, speak out, and protect our representative republic, its Constitution, and the separation of powers. It’s our responsibility to uphold these values and engage in the democratic process.

Even in matters of public health, historical lessons prove invaluable. The victims of diseases like polio and measles are screaming to remind us of their pain and suffering, and why scientific advancement and vaccination programs are so crucial to public health. Forgetting these lessons puts us at risk of reversing decades of medical progress and witnessing once again the senseless spread of controllable illness.

Our global standing and leadership role depend upon our ability to learn from history. When we abandon our ideals and integrity for short-term self-interest, we risk losing our international influence and the core values that have defined us as a nation. The sacrifice of fallen soldiers for these values stands as a testament to what we stand to lose when we forget our history. Those who were injured or gave the ultimate sacrifice were never “losers” or “suckers”, they are heroes, and they too must be screaming in disgust at our division and loss of integrity. To those serving, those who served, and the families who lost loved ones, we should all say: ‘Thank you for our Freedom.’ Learning from history isn’t just about memorizing dates and events – it’s about understanding patterns, recognizing warning signs, and making informed decisions that prevent us from repeating past mistakes. Choose to forget and risk repetition, and the perpetuation of the retribution and retaliation cycle. When we ignore history’s lessons, we don’t just dishonor the past; we compromise our future.

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Never Fear The Dream…

Some believe until they change themselves they cannot change others; but, why is it their responsibility to change anyone except themselves? 25.05.4

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Parallax of Truth… Perspective’s Facets

Our view of events is our perspective. As much as we value our experiences and hold our viewpoints in high regard, perspective differs from Truth.

Perspective is shaped by a lifetime of influences—experiences, education, training, family, friends, and the organizations we belong to. These factors color how we interpret what we see and hear. Perspectives aren’t inherently wrong—but they aren’t inherently right either. In today’s polarized, “no-gray-area” world, where nuance is often lost, this idea can be unsettling or outright rejected. Of course, my perspective is correct—what I see is what I see. But are you absolutely sure? We like to believe we wouldn’t deceive ourselves. And yet, we often do—unknowingly.

Try this: extend your arm, raise a finger, and align it with a distant object. Now close one eye, then the other. Notice how your finger shifts left or right depending on which eye is closed. Your eyes, just inches apart, see differently. So, which view is correct?

Neither. Both. That’s the point. It takes multiple viewpoints to approach the whole Truth. Without both eyes open, you lose focus and depth perception—the ability to judge distance and spatial relationships is skewed. Everything flattens into a single plane. Truth becomes distorted, even as your perspective seems perfectly valid.

Perspective is not the whole Truth. It’s a fragment of it. And if such a slight difference in viewpoint can shift what we see, imagine how much greater the distortion becomes when shaped by different life experiences, cultures, ideologies, and geographies. That’s why two people standing shoulder to shoulder can witness the same event—and come away with different interpretations.

Now consider the effect of ideology—a corrective or distorting lens we all possess. Ask yourself: Does your ideological lens help you see more clearly, or has it merely reshaped your version of the truth to make it more convenient? But the Truth is not about convenience.

If we claim to stand for Truth—and we should—that means being willing to hear perspectives beyond our own, even when they challenge us. It also means others should be willing and eager to listen to ours. Truth is not found in a single view, but in the kaleidoscope of many. No perspective is inherently more valuable or “right” than another.

We must not bury history, suppress ideas, ban books, or restrict academic inquiry. These are not acts of Truth-seeking—they are acts of fear. Instead, we should welcome diverse thought and experience in the shared pursuit of Truth.

Just know that the truth will set you free. The alternative is censored, willful ignorance—and that is not freedom. And remember, it is impossible to plan a journey by looking back and wishing to reclaim your steps. It is difficult if you’re looking down watching every step, but entirely possible if you keep both eyes open, look forward, and seek others’ perspectives.

Let’s accept that our view is ours, and we need others to fully appreciate the Truth that envelops us. Let’s plan our collective journey, appreciating where we have come from, acknowledging where we are, and setting a path to a better future.

This article was first published in the Bend Bulletin 5/20/25

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Never Fear The Dream….

It takes time for things to happen in an instant. If you cannot explain why you are doing something, what it entails, or where it will lead, it’s best to pause until you can.25.05.3

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Mental Health—Talk About IT

Everyone knows someone suffering from mental health issues, yet we’re too afraid to talk about it—and may not even know it. There are no minor mental health issues—some may be more acute than others, but all can become dangerously serious. From depression to suicidal thoughts, from dementia to delusional episodes, from feelings of worthlessness to exaggerated ego driven narcissism—mental illness surrounds us in all its variations.

This health crisis extends far beyond individuals. It impacts every family, community, and nation, yet we discuss the 725 people with measles in Texas more than the millions facing mental health challenges. Perhaps this is because measles and other infectious diseases can be controlled with vaccines and common sense. Mental health, however, remains an insidious challenge with no simple cure and few willing to discuss it.

Mental health conditions are indiscriminate in whom they affect. They’ve silently taken down elite athletes, brilliant minds, and everyday people alike. The impacts rarely make headlines but invariably stigmatize both those affected and their families. Why can we freely discuss a broken bone but not a troubled mind?

We readily discuss curable conditions because we can envision their end. While science continues making remarkable advances in physical health and immune therapy, mental health issues remain stubbornly resistant to consistent solutions, despite ongoing research. Watching someone navigate life with a physical disability can inspire us. Yet watching someone struggle with mental illness often makes us uncomfortable and frequently goes unrecognized.

Starting today and every day forward, commit to facing mental health challenges openly and bravely. Don’t shy away, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Whether confronting depression, Alzheimer’s, dementia, suicide, or any other mental health condition—approach it with compassion. It isn’t easy. People you love may change, and you’ll both struggle to find them through the fog. Don’t add to their burden—help lighten their load in whatever way you can.

If you notice someone with a semicolon tattoo, acknowledge their struggle or that of their loved one. This simple symbol gains profound meaning when understood—just as mental health does when confronted openly rather than hidden from view.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month….Step Up and Speak Out for those who struggle to……..

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Never Fear The Dream…..

A gift ceases to be a gift if a favor is expected, there is an obligation of repayment, or sense of expected control. 25.05.2

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Mother’s Day without one…….

This will be the first Mother’s Day without a mother. My wife lost hers many years ago, and I lost mine last September. Many followed her journey with Alzheimer’s on this blog, and our loss is bittersweet.

We take heart knowing they are both now free from pain and sorrow, and we celebrate their lives and the examples they set for us.

For those fortunate enough to still have a mother, cherish her—she won’t be here forever. You’ll miss the phone calls, no matter how confused or zany or time of night and day. You’ll miss the meals and visits. You’ll remember it all because she is FOREVER part of you, both physically and emotionally.

Mothers are SPECIAL they give of themselves selflessly every day. Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms… all of you deserve more than just one day of dedication and celebration because that is what you give all of us………THANK YOU……

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